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Dads Don't Lie

April 19, 2024

Well, dads lie a little bit. I will acknowledge that I will lie to my girls on occasion, but my lies are insignificant. For instance, when I'm done working and make it home, plop myself down on the couch, turn on a sporting event, and open a little treat for myself, my four young daughters suddenly appear like the seagulls in Finding Nemo. Little heads pop up and lock in on my snack like homing missiles on a US battleship. "Hey, Dad, what's that?" It's incredible how they haven't heard me tell them to clean up their room in months or to turn off lights after leaving a room, but they can hear the sound of a sour cream and onion potato chip bag being opened from hundreds of yards. I always answer their question the same way: "It's medicine.. don't worry about it."" They know it's not medicine, and they know what it is – ask silly questions, get silly answers. So I, and probably other dads, lie like that. We don't lie about important things, like how to be in good physical or financial shape. 

Here's an experiment to prove my point: go put on a ridiculous outfit and ask your mom and dad separately how you look. Your mom will say, "Oh sweetie, you always look beautiful," and your dad will probably say, "Did you get dressed in the dark?" There are exceptions, but generally, I think dads are just more blunt, sometimes to their detriment. However, In time, I believe that blunt responses, especially truthful ones, come to be appreciated more than responses that try to dance around your feelings. 

Here's an example of fatherly advice I gave myself: I got fairly chonky in 2020 during covid. Im tall which helps hide it but I was somewhere between a linebacker and offensive lineman. In fact, Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson and I are the same height a weight so if I need a little motivation I stand in front of the mirror shirtless holding up a picture of Dwayne. It's humbling. The point of this advice isn't to shame but to highlight the importance of self-improvement. There's always room for growth, and that's a powerful motivator. 

Physical and financial health share remarkable similarities. If you want to be physically healthy, there are two things you need to do: 1) eat right and 2) exercise. That's it. If you want to be financially healthy, 1) save your money, 2) invest. My fatherly advice to you is don't explain away why you're not where you want to be financially. You can always do something to improve your situation and get your goals on track. The first step is working with a planner and developing a plan. Working with a planner who believes in fatherly advice means focusing on what you need to hear rather than just telling you what you want to hear. Reach out and schedule your complimentary initial consultation with us today.